Do you ever have a hard time meshing your philosophical vision of love with the messy reality of relationship?

That depends on what you mean by “trouble”. It is, of course, impossible to always live in a messy relationship the way that you’d want to live if you just thought about love in the abstract. People complicate situations, and they make mistakes, and they betray your trust, and so on. So yes, I do not think it’s entirely possible to mesh my conception with what love is and ought to be with the practical experience of love.

But I don’t consider that trouble. Love, real love, is always aspirational. There is always room for improvement. I think it’s best to accept this, and to accept that love, like everything else in life, is sometimes painful, and difficult, and imperfect. Sometimes, love is like that because you make a mistake. That’s just part of the process.

At least, that’s what I think. Is that the question you were asking?

Somehow that always sounds trite when you’re standing on the sad side of love.

I’m sorry.

Do you ever have a hard time meshing your philosophical vision of love with the messy reality of relationship? Just curious…